When I was a teen, I was struggling against stirred emotions and wanted to become a writer. Novels and poetry are my favorite reading books. These satisfied my emotions. Conversely, my parents had not bothered by my interest. They arranged my marriage at the age of twenty. My hopes have fainted. But I couldn’t depart myself from reading and writing fondness. Now I am writing a blog for parents. So that they try to understand their teen’s emotions and help them to cultivate make a correlation between their emotions and goals.

                 What are Emotions

 Emotions are some positive and negative biological reactions of the human body and mind. These can make them superior or inferior in their future life. These reactions take place in the form of love, joy, affection, pleasure, anger, pity, sorrow, jealousy, trust, etc. The presence of these emotions in human beings makes a considerable difference between humans and other creatures on the Earth. Emotions are the chief reason to perform various types of activities. As uncountable activities, a person has done in his life that is guided by his/her emotions. Emotions play a vital role in the developing period – childhood to adulthood. This accidental journey takes a magical turn to develop a habit of daydreaming, laziness, work shirking, and hard work.

Situation of Teens

Being an industrious individual for teens in these critical years is cumbersome. The power of dreams should realize. Therefore I am writing a blog for parents. So parents must aware of what their teens are facing. There are two types of situations – first is – Outer dazzling and charming world is calling them to join the colorful globe. To accompany by their male and female friends for dating and shopping. They want to enjoy, a long safari by a new model car and full-time connectivity with social media. On the other hand, the second is – fully different circumstances in homes. Parents introduce them each day with a list of socially prohibited activities. They force them to do study the whole day. Parents always discuss their own ambitions and say them to attain. This instructional home weather often raises their temper. They think, what a combination of repulsive habitat!

                What do Teens Want?

  • Parents should try to know –‘ What do they want?’ Except for their own ambitions.
  • How do they feel and why do they feel so?
  • Parents should keep in their minds-  they feel they are special.
  • They cultivate a faith – he/she is the smartest young and get worried if they are not.
  • He/she wants proper development in their body parts.
  • He/she wants to become a model on social media.
  • They want unlimited fun and relationship with the opposite sex.
  • They want the latest designed dresses, personal smartphones, and beauty salon sittings.
  • Daydreaming satisfies their wishes and then works.
  • Disconnection with social media is terrifying trouble that makes them annoyed.
  • Economic independence is their heartiest desire.
  • Interference of parents and teachers [in their thinking and laziness] is like abuse or poison.
  • They want to show, that they are alert consumers and smart shoppers.
  • A few conscious teens want to change their dreams into goals.

                            What do Parents Want?

  • Parents want their teens should never to keep a secret that may put them into trouble at any time.
  • They should spend a lot of time in study.
  • Their deer teens should stand topper in class.
  • They should never demand costly and branded articles.
  • They should stay in the front row of school activities as well as social.
  • They want to appreciate their adolescent qualities in society to satisfy their natural tendency of self-respect.
  •  They should keep away themselves from mobiles.

                How do Adolescents Response?

  • Teens often ignore their advice.
  • They think – talking about working hard to study is a useless matter.
  • They hardly cooperate with the economic conditions of their parents.
  • Much use of social sites, listening to music, watching movies, eating junk food and aimless wandering are becoming their hobbies.
  • Procrastination is a common, rapidly developing habit.  

As parents know, it is the most precious and hardest time for each adolescent but they do not know how they control and deal with their agitated and annoying emotions. Parents can play an important role to make an agreement between their stirred emotions and motives.

Emotionally immature teens get disappointed frequently because anxiety and sadness go keep a hand in hand which affects their physical and mental health. Emotional disturbance reduces intelligence and brings down the activeness of thinking and reasoning. The daily output of teens decreases due to neglecting the central task of the present time. As psychologists say – present activities determined one’s future. But they involve themselves in the habit of making excuses. Anxiety, stress, and upset mood weaken physical health and mental health. Physical activities are also pushed back for unlimited time because of idleness. Wasting time in these precious years invites bad luck for an individual. Therefore the role of parents to guide their teens is important. So that they would be able to make a consolidated correlation between emotions and goals.

Develop a Consolidate Correlation between Emotions and Motives 

Emotions naturally occur in the form of flowing water. Water always flows down. Emotions also work like flowing water. If the golden bridle of discipline is not used -these are not controlled. Civilization cannot be developed as civilization comes through the training of emotion. Training of emotions of a teen is like climbing a mountain where is no smooth road and path to reach the destination. As reaching the destination is one’s purpose like to target one’s goal that can be fixed in the age of twelve to sixteen. Parents should focus on their teen’s interests and help to channelize their potential and attention.  

                   Role of Mothers

Largely mothers show their affection by tears in the favor of their teen’s future as the reason for sympathy. At the present time, sympathy may work as an antibiotic dose for teens’ mental health but maybe result in cowardice for teens. Teens do not know the reality of the world. As they are habitual in using social media and interested in playing online games. On the other hand, the internet-connected world encourages them to make efforts to set their goal and achieve these by working hard. Mothers should help their adolescents courageously in the favor of setting goals and be a primary guide for them. Change in behavior of a teen should be noticed carefully as the use of alcohol and drugs can be ruined their life.  A book by William Glasser – ‘For Parents and Teens – should be read to guide your teens.

Parents also try to know their curiosity and try to develop self-awareness. Self-awareness helps to control bridling emotions. A pleasant conversation with annoyed and irritated teens will help to cool down their raised temper Because they are innocent and inexperienced. Parents should try to be good listeners. It will help to cultivate faith among teens – their parents are their guide. This type of thinking will develop unity with their motives and emotions.

It will assist them to be a creator. On the other hand laziness, procrastination, stress, and aggressiveness habits work for developing fragmented personalities. Fragmented personalities can never do any work in the complete form. The consequences receive in the form of failure. Failure disturbs the full life of an individual. Parents’ own dedicated response helps teens to check up on their undesirable emotional attitudes. They can channel their potential. Parents should suggest their loving teens read an E-book, ‘The Astonished Power of Emotions’.

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